Mindset is everything. The gurus tell us this and it is true. Your mindset is the beliefs you carry in your head about you and your abilities will determine how far you go in life. If you believe you are born to struggle, you will be suspicious of anything offering you an opportunity to stop struggling. You will feel completely justified in holding yourself back because your mind is okay thinking it is normal to struggle.
A few days ago, I was scrolling through my Instagram feed and came across an advert by one of the big names in the personal development field. He was promoting a book that had the word “millionaire” in the title. It seemed interesting so I wanted to see reviews of the book and I realized what a mistake it was to scroll through the comments.
It shocked me to see the bile that people posted on there in between the ‘I am so thankful for you’ comments. I felt pity for these negative nellies because in their mind, they were justified in speaking badly about someone else’s success. Their mindset has them thinking it is impossible to succeed towards becoming a millionaire. Due to this, they chose to make sure that everyone else KNEW how they felt and did not get ‘taken in’ by the supposed scam.
The truth is, it was all in their mind. If someone else has a form of success you desire, there is nothing stopping you from doing what they did and creating it for yourself unless you tell yourself that you cannot.
These negative nellies had told themselves they could not and now, decided to share their pain with everyone else by projecting it on the successful person. They keep themselves trapped in a continuous negative mindset so they try bringing others down instead of pulling themselves up.
Take a moment to write down what you desire and as you write, check yourself for resistance to the idea. Write down what the resistance is and what it feels like.
Whether you realize it or not, your internal resistance is probably determining what you allow yourself to create. For example, I went from working full time as a pharmacist to more than replacing my income in my own business.
“Happiness depends on your mindset and attitude.” – Roy T. Bennett
Here are two mindset shifts which will change your life if you do the internal work needed to believe:
1. Waiting for a Saviour
As a spiritual person, I had been brought up to pray and wait on the will of Spirit before taking any moves. I would sing songs like ‘Pray until something happens’ and I was a hard worker so I kept waiting for my ship to come find me.
I kept thinking because I felt called to business, then the Spirit/Universe/Higher Power would send somebody to me whom I would discover and then all doors would open towards success.
I prepared myself for the day when everything would go my way. I made my struggle at the time a spiritual thing. As a singer, I would even create songs about how my time was coming one day.
You may read this and smile, thinking how silly does one need to be to believe that but think about your life. Are you hoping a day will come where someone discovers you and tells you that you are allowed to go after what you truly want?
At what moment exactly do you think you will be ready to prosper? Who needs to give you permission first? Have you also spiritualized your struggle like I did, or are you taking full responsibility for creating the life you desire?
“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” – Aristotle
2. I am ____________ and so therefore, I struggle
What is your particular belief of choice making you think you deserve to struggle? Maybe, you think that your skin color, your past, or your lack of time means you will struggle more than most.
Perhaps, you say your lack of technical skills means you can never get your online business off the ground. Maybe you are broke at the moment and you think that means you cannot get anything started because “everyone knows you need money to make money”.
You will always experience what you believe to be true because you will simply not put all your effort into creating a new reality.
Understand this: You will ALWAYS prove yourself right. ALWAYS! Decide no matter what seems to stand in your way, you will choose to prosper.
These are two beliefs that if you will do the work of shifting the way you think and replacing negativity with more empowering beliefs such as I am fully responsible for my success in life, I am a creator, and I can create my new reality, you will prove yourself right!
Read books to reinforce your chosen beliefs and stories of those who have overcome incredible odds to succeed and tell yourself that you are capable of doing the same.